…He won’t talk to you.
My 9 (soon to be 10) year old is having “girl problems” and he won’t talk to me about it. He’s never been interested in girls and always says “quiet Mom” when I tell him his girlfriend Miley Cyrus is on the radio.
But that was then.
He started 4th grade this year. He’s in a new school that combines a few different elementary schools into one big 4th-5th grade school. And that means lots of new kids, including girls. My son also plays youth football for the county. One of the cheerleaders for his football team is in his 4th grade class — and she has a crush on my son.
Apparently this girl has been having her friends bug my son saying, “Mikayla likes you, do you like her? Just say YES!” And they’ve been doing it non-stop for almost a week.
Today my son came home from school and said “I have to do something that I don’t want to do.” I asked him what it was and he said “Never mind. Just forget it.” I asked him again and he wouldn’t tell me. So we had a little talk about how it is much easier to tell a girl that you just don’t want a girlfriend than it is to break up with her later. (I never said I was an all-star parent!)
Fast forward 45 minutes.
I found a book on the kitchen counter that was his so I went to his room to give it to him. His door was locked. I knocked on the door. “What Mom?” I asked him to open the door. And then I heard his closet door open and shut.
He opened the door, I gave him his book, and he didn’t want to let me in, blocking my way. I asked him why he wouldn’t let me in and he said “Nothing, don’t worry about it.” Then I asked him what he put in his closet and he said “Nothing Mom.” Of course I knew better so I walked to the closet and tried to open it but he got in front of me, getting really defensive.
I asked him what he was doing. And he wouldn’t tell me. I asked if it was something about this girl from school and he said yes. Was it a card? Nope. He wouldn’t budge. So I kept badgering him about it and he started CRYING. Oh brother. I asked why he was crying and he wouldn’t tell me. When I asked if it was because he was embarrassed about it, he said yes.
I told him how important it is to talk about things when you’re upset and that I will always be here for him. He sat there, crying, not saying a word. I told him that it really hurt my feelings that my own son won’t talk to me, then left his room.
And that’s where the situation is at. My baby will not talk to me about a girl.
Mama is sad.